Hey, you know who has a GREAT attitude? NOT me. No, I’m easily offended, temperamental, and a notorious grudge-holder. As one of my friends once put it: “Joe is the type of guy who, years later, will remember that pencil you stole from him in high school – and finally exact his revenge.” While not exactly true (I’ve always been more of a pen man), the statement is certainly accurate in spirit. Hey, don’t misunderstand. I’m incredibly loyal and generous to my friends, but simply (and completely) unforgiving when I feel I’ve been wronged. Yes, I have a bad attitude. Admittedly. On the other hand, my buddy (and former Stargate Special Features Producer), Ivon Bartok, has a GREAT attitude. Even when life deals him a disappointment, he’ll let it roll right off him and always look on the positive side of things. He has an ability to step back and consider the big picture, apply logic to a potentially emotional issue and say “Hey, that’s too bad. But let’s not dwell. Moving on!”. More often than not, I’m the one who ends up more affronted – on his behalf. In hindsight, I suppose this is why he was such a great traveling companion on our trip to Japan a few years back. Despite Air Canada misplacing his luggage and delivering it days later, his losing his subway pass only two days into our trip, our receiving word that our show (Stargate: Universe) had been canceled (Day #10), his spirits never flagged.
I admire him for it and, while it would be nice to say “I wish I could be more like him.”, the truth is I’m perfectly happy being my acerbic, disgruntled self. Next to writing and my uncanny ability to instantly offer the numerical counterpart to any randomly-generated letter of the alphabet, complaining and plotting revenge are two things I’m really good at and it seems a shame to just give up on them like I did the clarinet or Mad Men after that “I ate a bad sandwich” episode.
Still, if I can’t have a good attitude, I can have the next best thing: a friend with a good attitude!